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ON LEADING AND BE-ING HUMAN

When Not to Downsize Your Ego

A colleague who requires you to be less so they can be more, is not a colleague worth your investment. Don't be fooled. Your ego is not too big. Your colleague is too small.

 

Ego

gets a bad rap.

Ego

is necessary.

Ego

draws a boundary between the “you” in you and the “them” in them.

Ego

only creates problems when it is too BIG or too HUNGRY.

Like nerve endings in the toes, ego reports back, rather loudly, when psychological toes (or fingers) have been stepped upon.

CUT TO THE FOLLOWING SCENE:

You are in a shoe store.

You point to the red shoes in the window and ask the clerk for a size 7.

You put them on and immediately feel your toes being pinched.

“Too small,” you tell the clerk.

You Move On.

CUT TO THE FOLLOWING SCENE:

But first, you might want to start nodding your head now, because this will sound all too familiar.

You are talking to a colleague about a project in which you are both involved.

You feel as if you have to shrink your body into a small box.

Is the box too small or are you too big?

You do not shine.

You cannot enjoy your brilliance, your humor, your ability to play, or whatever form your talents take.

This is not the first time.

You’ve discussed the dynamic before, more than once.

She persists in pressing you into the box.

MOVE ON

I promise you will be and feel liberated.

You will be able to breathe again.

You will not find her sitting on your shoulder, demanding that you do this, or not do that.

MOVE ON

Be your brilliant self.

N-Joy

The End!

P.S. A friend or colleague who requires you to be less so they can be more, is not a friend at all.

Move on.

You will lose nothing and gain everything.

You will not be alone.

You will have the “you” in you once more.

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When Not to Downsize Your Ego